A newly wed couple arrived into my neighborhood. The girl has just completed inter when her parents got her married to a guy serving government.
I can assure without slightest doubt that they are one of the happiest couples in the world.
Days passed…Then they had two kids…... after 7 years of happy married life ….one unfortunate day…the husband met with an accident…….and he passed away….
Now the wife can get the job of the husband…thanks to our government after 2 years of constant request to the government…..but then she was denied of his position…..why??.....she dint do her degree…..she has done only inter….and now she cant give the lifestyle and education her husband could provide to her children…..
If only her parents allowed her to study degree …she would have faced this misfortune of her life with less pressure than now….
If only she had taken time to complete her degree and delayed her marriage by couple of years…..
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Sheela was married after she completed tenth……to a guy who runs bookstore…….with a dowry of 2 lakhs…….in two years she had two kids…..her husband …I have never seen a guy as handsome as him…and irony is his inner soul lacks the beauty of his physical appearance…..
Sheela faced physical and mental torture with this man and her kids are afraid of their own creator- their father. He comes home drunk, harases wife and kids…
The mother wants to separate from him…give her children more pleasant, peaceful and secured life than what they are living now….but she has no choice…she cant raise two children on her own with tenth certificate……
Now life long she has to face it and her children have to grow up with it….
If only her parents waited till she completed a minimal education so that when things go wrong in life she will have a choice to choose…….
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I had a friend named Reshma in btech. There was a guy who used to propose her from 2 years. He convinced her to marry him after she was 18. She went against her parents to marry the love of her life. After three months of marriage she realized the love of her life is actually the torture of her life. She realized she made a foolish decision by believing his words.
Why did this happen??? Reason a girl is not matured at the age of eighteen…she is still very young to know what she wants…..very young to understand the real world ….very immatured to take a matured decision. A person can take a matured decision after he or she crosses the teenage and becomes an adult….
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My examples may or maynot be sufficient to support my request to shift legal age of marriage from 18 to 20.
But, I strongly recommend this.... because a girl or boy must be in a position to handle financial constraints in life before getting married. He or she should always must have an option to change the way of living if things go wrong and also must be matured enough to decide to whom they want to be wed.
What if a girl gets married to a wrong person..she has to bear it life long as she has no financial security....what if a girl is abandoned by her husband or her husband passes away after 10 years of marriage can she raise her kids then???.....Education that can provide survival options is a must. In order to achieve this the girl should not be married till she attains 20 years of age. What if a 18year old is lured by a cheater???....even her parents cannot stop her from ruining her life.....
Its my sincere request for every parent and for every girl to take help of education to achieve financial stability in life and wait till the age of 20 to get married....
Thursday, February 7, 2008
Wednesday, February 6, 2008
What difference is education to a Girl??
I was in sixth standard and it was monday morning..I was getting ready in white uniform , clean socks and shining shoes...beaming in front of the mirror while my mom made my tiffin and my dad helped me with my school bag .
I was about to go to school on his bike when I saw Lakshmi 2 years younger to me hurrying from house to house to do household chores.
Now why is she not going to school? I saw her everyday of the week doing same thing....doesnt she have holidays??...why are her clothes shabby....???...these thoughts haunted me....
The next sunday I was at home ...playing with my friends in the lawn...I saw her ....she smiled innocently at me like a newly blossomed rose in my garden. I waved to her asked her to join me for a game. She nodded a no and ran away.
She interested me a lot...why is she not playing like every girl ...why is she not going to school.???..is she that bad that no school took her...??? I decided to ask when I meet her again.
I dint get this opportunity not till 2 weeks after which I was given summer vacation.
I woke up early ...went to beach with my closet friend pinky...and returned and I found Lakshmi hopping from house to house ...the same old routine.
We stopped her and asked us to join when she is free in my bedroom.
Not till 12:oo pm she was free to visit us.
We had a friendly chat....we played ludo and she was quick to learn it...then we sang songs....whatever we did she was enthusiastic to learn.....we let her go only after she promised to visit us again the next afternoon.
This went along for a week...I found her she more quick at grasping things and learning than me and pinky. She is polite, shy and amiable. Then why is she not going to school???
I couldnt control my curiousity I asked her why she is not going to school when me the next day.
Lakshmi replied, " I used to go to school when I was very small... I know alphabets and numbers. The teacher used to tell my mom I am a good girl..."
" then why did you stop...dint u like the teacher?" pinky questioned innocently.
Lakshmi was silent for few minutes. We waited without blinking to know the secret of Lakshmi.
"My mom used to work to send me to school...then she feel ill so I have to work" said Lakshmi with her eyes on the floor.
I asked," What about your dad..doesnt he work?"
The mention of her dad brought fright to the little girls eyes.
"My dad works in goverment office....he comes daily drunk ..hits my mom....snatches her earned money...beats me sometimes when I try to cover for my mom..."
"Why does ur mom bear it.....my teacher hit the boy who pulled my ribbon in school....does no one hit ur dad....??" I bursted out.
Lakshmi replied," My mom says she should obey my father as he is her husband. She has to follow what he say" and then Lakshmi started crying.
......This is not only story of Lakshmi ...its story of many girls in India. What is the difference between me and Lakshmi ...she is more polite and more intelligent than many of us...they why she had to be sold as a child labor?? ...Birth???
Just because of birth she is deprived of her life??? Why??
Most of us worry about goals, hikes and dreams of luxuries...what about these girls who cant even dare to dream???
Isnt the responsibilty of us...the luckiest silver spoon children to spare a thought for these girls...
the reasons for such misfortune:
1) Mothers not educated...and hence dependency on the mercy of husbands...
2) Liquor.....all those people who sell liquor spare a thought...cant u earn money by no other means....that u have to ruin senses of man and the bright future of the kids...
3)Our Indian sensitive feelings not to revolt against husbands....be devoted to ur husbands,..respect them...but not to that extent that they ruin ur children....dont be blind to know the difference between devotion and slavery....
4) Lack of social encouragement. I blame all those people who hire small kids to do your household works... including myself..I was mum when I see children hired...God has given us a better life than them...but its our responsibilty to help them...
Things we can do:
1) Please dont hire children
2) Encourage servant maids to send their children to school.
3) Donate some part of the maids' children school tution fee. Give old books and clothes to their children.
4)Help woman to control their husbands irresponsibilty towards family.
5) Educate women in free time and make them realise they have a right to live happily and not in slavery in disguise.
I was in sixth standard and it was monday morning..I was getting ready in white uniform , clean socks and shining shoes...beaming in front of the mirror while my mom made my tiffin and my dad helped me with my school bag .
I was about to go to school on his bike when I saw Lakshmi 2 years younger to me hurrying from house to house to do household chores.
Now why is she not going to school? I saw her everyday of the week doing same thing....doesnt she have holidays??...why are her clothes shabby....???...these thoughts haunted me....
The next sunday I was at home ...playing with my friends in the lawn...I saw her ....she smiled innocently at me like a newly blossomed rose in my garden. I waved to her asked her to join me for a game. She nodded a no and ran away.
She interested me a lot...why is she not playing like every girl ...why is she not going to school.???..is she that bad that no school took her...??? I decided to ask when I meet her again.
I dint get this opportunity not till 2 weeks after which I was given summer vacation.
I woke up early ...went to beach with my closet friend pinky...and returned and I found Lakshmi hopping from house to house ...the same old routine.
We stopped her and asked us to join when she is free in my bedroom.
Not till 12:oo pm she was free to visit us.
We had a friendly chat....we played ludo and she was quick to learn it...then we sang songs....whatever we did she was enthusiastic to learn.....we let her go only after she promised to visit us again the next afternoon.
This went along for a week...I found her she more quick at grasping things and learning than me and pinky. She is polite, shy and amiable. Then why is she not going to school???
I couldnt control my curiousity I asked her why she is not going to school when me the next day.
Lakshmi replied, " I used to go to school when I was very small... I know alphabets and numbers. The teacher used to tell my mom I am a good girl..."
" then why did you stop...dint u like the teacher?" pinky questioned innocently.
Lakshmi was silent for few minutes. We waited without blinking to know the secret of Lakshmi.
"My mom used to work to send me to school...then she feel ill so I have to work" said Lakshmi with her eyes on the floor.
I asked," What about your dad..doesnt he work?"
The mention of her dad brought fright to the little girls eyes.
"My dad works in goverment office....he comes daily drunk ..hits my mom....snatches her earned money...beats me sometimes when I try to cover for my mom..."
"Why does ur mom bear it.....my teacher hit the boy who pulled my ribbon in school....does no one hit ur dad....??" I bursted out.
Lakshmi replied," My mom says she should obey my father as he is her husband. She has to follow what he say" and then Lakshmi started crying.
......This is not only story of Lakshmi ...its story of many girls in India. What is the difference between me and Lakshmi ...she is more polite and more intelligent than many of us...they why she had to be sold as a child labor?? ...Birth???
Just because of birth she is deprived of her life??? Why??
Most of us worry about goals, hikes and dreams of luxuries...what about these girls who cant even dare to dream???
Isnt the responsibilty of us...the luckiest silver spoon children to spare a thought for these girls...
the reasons for such misfortune:
1) Mothers not educated...and hence dependency on the mercy of husbands...
2) Liquor.....all those people who sell liquor spare a thought...cant u earn money by no other means....that u have to ruin senses of man and the bright future of the kids...
3)Our Indian sensitive feelings not to revolt against husbands....be devoted to ur husbands,..respect them...but not to that extent that they ruin ur children....dont be blind to know the difference between devotion and slavery....
4) Lack of social encouragement. I blame all those people who hire small kids to do your household works... including myself..I was mum when I see children hired...God has given us a better life than them...but its our responsibilty to help them...
Things we can do:
1) Please dont hire children
2) Encourage servant maids to send their children to school.
3) Donate some part of the maids' children school tution fee. Give old books and clothes to their children.
4)Help woman to control their husbands irresponsibilty towards family.
5) Educate women in free time and make them realise they have a right to live happily and not in slavery in disguise.
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